‘Have I been sexually abused?’
More than any other question, people ask me ‘Have I been sexually abused?’ People are desperate for answers. Have you been abused? Well, unless you have memories of the actual abuse, there’s no easy way to tell. Most symptoms are not exclusive to childhood sexual abuse. There are a large number of symptoms and conditions that point to childhood sexual abuse, but there isn’t a bloodtest or urine sample that you can have analyzed. Unless you happen to remember, you may never be sure.
Tell tale signs of childhood sexual abuse
There are tell tale signs, symptoms that point in the direction and they tend to be cumulative. Having one or more symptoms of the Self Test doesn’t mean for sure you have been abused. There could be other causes for each of those symptoms. However, the more statements from the Self Test you check, the more likely it is that you have been sexually abused as a child.
What the test does tell you
The test doesn’t give you the answer to the question ‘Have I been sexually abused as a child?’ It does tell you some of the multitude of symptoms are known to have a possible connection to childhood sexual abuse. Just reading the list can give you more insight into how childhood sexual abuse affects people. It can also give you more clarity on where you stand with this issue. Whether you are at the start of your healing or at the tail end of it, this test will give you an idea about the terrain and how far along you’ve come.
Seeking help after taking the test
If you checked many symptoms, it’s probably a good idea to seek help. Life is too beautiful to be suffering from so many symptoms, regardless of whether childhood sexual abuse is the cause. You deserve better. Part two of my book outlines some of the help that is available and gives you an idea of how these different types of therapy work.