No More is a public service video series that is making the rounds on youtube
This is a great way of getting all ‘slacktivists’ involved. The no more video’s are short and very shareable. It’s a clear and concise call to action. What is good about the no more campaign is that it tackles sexual abuse from a variety of standpoints.
No more bystanders
No more looking away when you see someone being abused. This is one of the most hurtful things about child sexual abuse: all the people who must have noticed something, but never said a word. All the campaigns that are geared towards getting a child to speak out about it are to no avail unless adults learn to listen, with not just their ears, but also with their eyes, their minds and their hearts.
No more ‘He didn’t mean any harm’
There is no excuse for rape, none. ‘Boys will be boys’ is selfperpetuating non-sense. It’s time to teach our young men how to behave responsibly. It’s time to raise our children not to be rapists. By our example, by our normative statements, by teaching our young ones to respect and nurture each other. Rape and pillage is soooo 2013.
No more: ‘She was asking for it’
In all my years as a counsellor/coach I’ve never ever heard a story of a young child asking to be raped. Children ask for something allright: they ask for loving care, they need to be held, comforted and nurtured. Even a troubled teen with tiny tanktops and camel toe shorts is not asking to be raped. We need to properly identify the ‘it’ that someone in trouble is asking for. Because most likely ‘it’ is recognition, validation, nurturing. Someone who is asking for ‘it’ in that way is vulnerable to child sexual abuse.
No more: ‘You should be over that by now’
Thank goodness more and more people are finding their voices to talk about what happened to them as a child or adult. Thankfully we’re no longer silent! Because when we learn to speak about it, when we learn to say the words that’s when healing begins. Healing is a long road that usually doesn’t start the moment the abuse stops. It starts when we find ourselves safe enough to begin to uncover the secrets we have stashed away in the back of our heads. This is the time to heal.
Time to say no more!
It’s time to say no more and thank goodness we’re finding our voices to do so. This is what this video is all about. Saying no, not only to the acts themselves, but also to the silence that surrounds them. Because the silence enables the acts. NO MORE