Radio show with Ivonne as a guest

Radio show with Virginia Colin

Below is embedded the recording of the radio-show Ivonne appeared in on 16 november 2015. Enjoy!

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Thrive! Radio interview with Ivonne

Thrive!

Ivonne Meeuwsen, online coach for healing from childhood sexual abuseDear friends,
I’m very excited and proud to tell you that Ivonne will be interviewed live on internet radio show “Family Matters.”

Radio interview

Virginia L. Colin, PH.D, will ask Ivonne about her book I Thrive! and her experience as coach to help heal people with sexual abuse trauma and their partners. Ivonne will tell you all that yes, you too can heal from sexual abuse trauma as she did. That you cannot only survive but thrive!

Book I Thrive!

As you may know her book I Thrive! is on the mandatory reading list at universities here in Europe. It’s a scientific book, but reads like a novel. That’s one of its great strengths People (therapists) tell us it’s the only book they know of that makes this tough topic readable for everyone.
A funny fact: A professor told us that her students asked her if they could please read more than the mandatory chapters in the book I Thrive! because they thought it was the most interesting book they’d ever read.

I Thrive! really is THAT good…

Reason I bring this up is because it already literally saved lives. This is not just a commercial trap. I can honestly say that it opened my eyes. It’s personal, honest, approachable. The esteemed mr. Vincent Felitti (ACE Study) agrees and wrote the forword. Have you checked it out, yet? Available on amazon.com. Please share your review of the book on amazon.com if you agree!

Facts about the radio interview

We hope to “meet” you all on November 17th, 06.00 pm eastern coast time.
Radio show on internet: Family Matters.

To tune in use this link: http://www.voiceamerica.com/promo/episode/88898

Thank you!

 

For more information about the long term effects of child sexual abuse and how to heal from them, buy the book ‘I Thrive. Healing child sexual abuse’ at Amazon.com

To live with a secret

winter 01-14The big secret

Sexual abuse is something we don’t want to talk about. People around the victims often find it more difficult to talk about, than the survivor themselves. But breaking the silent secret for the first time, is a chore.

Act like an ostrich

We much rather stick our heads in the sand, like ostriches than to realize that one out every 4 girls and one out of every 6 boys are sexually abused before they’re 16 years old. Maybe if we don’t talk or think about this, it might go away…..

It doesn’t happen to us

We all know there are big scary men ( and women!) in this world. Some of them will do the unthinkable and hurt our kids. To think that our fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, friends, people we trust may actually hurt our children is something we don’t want to deal with.

But I don’t know anyone who’s been sexually abused

I often hear: “I don’t know anybody who’s been sexually abused.” When I ask if they’ve ever brought up the subject the answer is no. Almost nobody does and so the secrets continue. Then, when I speak to them later they tell me a different story: “I told my family/friends about your book and I couldn’t believe it! I know several people who’ve been sexually abused, I just never knew this about her/him. And we’ve been best friends for years! Or it’s someone in church or club, even familymembers.

Reward of secrecy is loneliness

Few of us choose to live a life in complete solitude. Human nature is to want to share. To be in the company of (like-minded) people. To talk about our daily stuff. Just look at all the trivial Facebook messages. Sharing is fun.

Not being able to share is true loneliness

But when you can’t share your big secret you’re truly alone. You’ve been told from an early age that “Nobody will understand, so don’t you dare talk about our secret.”
To break the silence now has become a huge individual struggle.

Is anybody listening???

Then when you finally find the courage to share your secret where do you go?
Who wants to listen? Fortunately the taboo around sexual abuse is very slowly dissolving. Media, social workers, eventually friends and family cannot deny the fact that it happens. Often. Way too often. Helpfull friends mean well, but often don’t have the necessary tools to help you. A specialized therapist wil help you break your silence and help you heal.

Are we ready?!

Is society ready to listen to your stories? Can we find the right words to discuss this topic without falling back on words like: “victim”. Or even “survivor.” How about “Thriver”. I like that. It shows someone who has healed from trauma. Who doesn’t just live his/her life but thrives.

Hero

Still, I suggest the term Hero.
Luctor et emergo: I struggle and emerge.
I don’t underestimate the struggle. Far from it. But through my struggles I started to live.
In living my life I started to thrive.
To become a hero in my own life.
Start rewriting your life story today- with you as the hero!

 

For more information about the long term effects of child sexual abuse and how to heal from them, buy the book ‘I Thrive. Healing child sexual abuse’ at Amazon.com